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Killahkel's avatar

Sadly, I see this in university classes year after year. My male students often report feeling bewildered and silenced by their female peers' relative intolerance, but only in confidence to me (their female professor).

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Eva Sylwester's avatar

My dad used to say his dad told him that men were better at getting along with each other than women were because they grew up having to be able to get together enough guys for a pickup baseball game, while women in that era didn't have that formative experience. At this point, though, I don't know how many kids of any gender are playing pickup sports games.

In terms of women feeling compelled to suppress offensive speech, I think women have a nurturing instinct, and sometimes we don't know when or how to turn it off. It can be painful for us when we believe, rightly or wrongly, that controversial speech is somehow putting a vulnerable victim in peril.

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